Monday, March 06, 2006

I Have A New Home

Literally.

I took Thurday and Friday off and moved into an apartment with my daughter.

Unfortunately, the reasons for doing so are not so grand. My husband and I separated.

I won't go into the gory details because let's face it - I'm sick to death of thinking about it. Suffice to say that it was time. Seven years is long enough to go through what I've been going through. Now that's not to say it was all bad because it most certainly wasn't - there were absolutely wonderful times. But when you're caught in a cycle, those wonderful times always disappear and the "bad" times creep up.

I found a great deal on a two bedroom apartment that is just across the street from my daughter's daycare and my mom's apartment. It's only a mile from work and I can have my dog.

Now my office is in my bedroom and I can look out the window while I write. And I can't wait to get back into writing. When you are in a situation that sucks the energy out of you, finding time to do much of anything becomes difficult.

Where the marriage will go from here is unclear. I'm open to anything right now. But some major changes need to happen.

But just being able to distance myself from the situation has helped tremendously. I feel lighter, more clear-headed, and healthier. I'm actually losing weight! With my new eating habits and exercising, I have more energy than I've had in awhile and my clothes are starting to reflect the changes. I know the stress I was under contributed to my health. But now I feel much more in control.

I might even ignore the boxes stacked haphazardly around the apartment and open up my laptop tonight. :-)

Didn't mean to keep you all in suspense, especially for a message that wasn't all that great! But I'm doing just fine - and I can't wait to catch up with all of you!

13 comments:

  1. (((((((((((Melissa)))))))))))

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  2. Sorry for the troubles, Melissa. But I'm happy that you're putting it behind you.

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  3. (((((Melissa))))) I'm so sorry you had to go through that. An ending, even of something that wasn't healthy, is always hard. At least there seems to have been some positive results from it and I'm happy for them. I'll keep you in my thoughts.

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  4. Just ignore those boxes, honey. They will eventually go away. I promise. I've moved 14 times in 11 years. hehe

    You're in my prayers. You just keep loosing that weight and get sexier than ever!

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  5. Eric asked me to send you this ((((((((Hugs))))))).

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  6. Thank you, all. It's been hard, but in a way, it's been easy, too, because I know that what I'm doing is right. :-)

    Rene - Eric needs to deliver those hugs in person!!!

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  7. Sorry to blog hop on such an ungrand occassion.

    (((MM)))

    Prayers and positive thoughts your way.

    :)

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  8. It's inspiring to see a woman taking care of herself first. Too often, IMHO, women are so busy taking care of others that they stay in situations that are unhealthy. You go girl!

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  9. Mel - Oh my. Big ((((((((hugs)))))))). Email me if you need to talk!!

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  10. Melissa--big hugs to you! Here's hoping that some positive changes come out of it. Hang in there, okay?

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  11. I'm sorry to hear about your marriage, but I'm glad to see you hare keeping such an upbeat positive attitude. I could feel your renewed energy coming across in your post and my first thought was what a brand new adventure for her! Good luck with everything and I'm sure whatever happens you'll make the best of it.

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  12. Melissa, I'm so sorry. I've been trying to get to your blog for two days, and this is the first time I've been able to get it to load. Sorry my sympathy is late.

    I hope everything works out for the best. I'll be thinking of you and your daughter.

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  13. Anonymous6:50 AM

    Keep up the good work » » »

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